Mike Staver's Blog

Are New Years Resolutions Futile?

Let me save you some time. The answer it yes. Here’s why, if we chose to wait until the end of the year to make a promise to ourselves that is that important may I suggest that it just wasn’t ever THAT important. The list of “promises” we make to ourselves and then, in most cases, abandon weeks later is probably endless. The good intentions we have are often shadowed by the tendency to lapse into the comfort of the familiar. So seldom do most find their way to lasting and consistent change ESPECIALLY when it is placed in a moment of enthusiasm like the end of a year. This year I resolved to accept the fact that I don’t need any resolutions. Alright so I don’t want to be a downer so let me give you a couple suggestions. 

1. Clarify a single thing that, if you really changed it, would make a HUGE difference in your life
2. Identify all the pain that will result if you don’t change it. I mean ALL the pain.
3. Then identify all the gain.
4. Then ask yourself a simple question….is it worth it?
5. If no, go ahead and accept the pain and don’t complain
6. If yes, get busy doing something about it!! My support and thoughts are with you as you begin your journey

Happy New Year!!

Are You About Effort or Achievement? 

“Effort is admirable, achievement is essential,” I heard the fortune 50 CEO John Chambers of CISCO Systems say just before I went on to speak. I could have just stood up and said, “well that just about sums it up folks….thanks for coming!” I didn’t of course but he did pretty much say it all in that small sentence. I am so so tired of our culture getting softer and softer around achievement. It can be fairly said that the pendulum has swung far too far in the “well at least they are trying,” direction! Trying doesn’t get it done. Every kid on the team DOES NOT deserve a trophy because they tried or just showed up, that’s just not the way the world works. May I suggest that we get back to achievement as a primary indicator of success. Granted achievement can be defined in many ways but just trying is not enough. At least you made the effort is not a compliment. It’s the thought that counts is pathetic weakness. To what extent do you sometimes hide behind the “at least I tried,” excuse? How often do we feel bad when everyone doesn’t feel good. It’s normal and necessary to fail, to miss the mark, to fall short. It’s what teaches us and allows our minds to stretch. Get back to feeling the strain and stretch that real achievement requires! Aggressively shed the need and desire to feel comfortable and get about achievement. Here’s how

1. Get clear about what achievement looks like
2. Set a measurable goal around it so that when the time comes you can have clarity around the achievement
3. Set the target at an uncomfortable reach/distance. Make yourself feel the stretch
4. Surround yourself with people that drive you and cradle you.
5. Develop intolerance for simply making the effort.
6. Go crazy celebrating when achievement is realized.